My day started fine, with a nice breakfast.
Then (as there are again school holidays) we went out for a nice walk, a tea in a nice place
a ice cream and a walk down the river.
a ice cream and a walk down the river.
After all this idyllic things, we went to a playground...were, I was bullied by a mother and her 4 years old son, who was delighted in throwing his ball at my face (on purpose) and laughing at me.
At the third time I couldn't tolerate more his hideous laugh so I grabbed the ball, handled it furiously to the wrong mother, just to realise that his scary mummy was much taller and bigger than me. She then told me (in a very unkind way) that his son can throw the ball at my face as many times he wants, after all he's only 4 years old!
At the third time I couldn't tolerate more his hideous laugh so I grabbed the ball, handled it furiously to the wrong mother, just to realise that his scary mummy was much taller and bigger than me. She then told me (in a very unkind way) that his son can throw the ball at my face as many times he wants, after all he's only 4 years old!
I replied that the next time he hit me I would throw the ball in the river so she said that she would throw me down the river and I had no compassion towards a poor 4 year old boy that only wants to play!!!
I walked away, to avoid to get hit by the bully mum, after all I was speechless!
I walked away, to avoid to get hit by the bully mum, after all I was speechless!
Am I a grumpy old woman or some mothers out there are totally bonkers?
It seems that certain parents are afraid of the word "discipline".
DISCIPLINE...scary uh! Grumpy old women
32 comments:
Hehe, yes, it does happen at times that we meet people who act rude, children and grown-ups alike. Nothing you can do about it except avoid them.
omg, I can't believe it! You're not a grumpy old woman... gosh, what that mom was thinking? Maybe she'll get the clue when he will throw something at her. I am sorry this ruin your day. (many hugs to you!)
oh, and btw: your breakfast and your breakfast bowl are really nice! :)
I sympathize and, to be honest, I sometimes think I moved to the country only to be done with playgrounds (and the parents there!). Happy weekend Aleassandra!
To Sandra, Ana and Francesca...THANK YOU!
I UNDERSTAND YOU TOO!!!!
i think, my reaction would have been exactly the same! maybe i'm old too, but i can't stand bad-mannered kids -mine are perfect, of course ;-)))
Have a nice week-end lovely mum :).
er, NO! you're not! some people are just plain crazy. what about a few good old-fashioned manners, eh? or boundaries? or, yes, discipline! i'm sure she wouldn't like it if it was done to her! playgrounds can be funny places, i should know, i have spent FIVE hours at one today. FIVE hours.
to Itsoh: thanks for your understanding!
to Chistine: Merci Madame!
to Nath: WHAT? 5 hours...you are a SAINT!
Oh je te comprends et je suis comme toi, j'ai le sang qui ne fait qu'un tour face à ce genre de comportement, je trouve ça assez insupportable !
Mais que ça ne t'empêche pas de passer un bon week end en tous cas ! ;)
A bientôt, S.
It sounds like a very unpleasant experience on what should have been a lovely day. I definitey think four year olds are able to know right from wrong and mothers should teach them this not let them do whatever they like. It's troubling that parents can be like that. I would say you are not grumpy at all just very sensible and good. I hope your day got better.
ha! (smiles modestly) i am! no, it's a new park, there's lots to go on and it's basically a massive sand-pit. so i don't *actually* have to do anything, except be on stand-by with a picnic and a friend or two to chat with. quite nice actually. but not if i had had to take a ball to the face repeatedly.
You poor thing! Four years is definitely old enough to know better, if only his mother had taught him so. A truly irksome child but more worrisome, a mother who's completely bonkers.
I am horrified that this mother could be so awful! You are not a grumpy old woman, you are just frustrated like the rest of us as to why someone could be so horrible and how she could raise such a rotten child! I do feel for you... we have them here in Australia too.
The problem is, though, that it is nice people like you who end up feeling angry and frustrated while they don't spare another thought to it. Don't let them affect you, Alessandra. I guess the best we can do is keep away from people like this and tell ourselves that we cannot be responsible for the actions of others. Hope you can forget it all soon :) Kx
Unbelievable! That woman was/is totally bonkers! I cannot tolerate that sort of behavior, and I do not understand that way of parenting. I must say you handled that situation amazingly. Saintly in fact! This story had my heart racing (actually still) and it's a good thing I wasn't there ... ;^)
Shake it off and enjoy your weekend, xo.
when i get angry with people and situations and i can't control myself anymore, i say the word: supercalifragilisticexpicalidocious :-)
but you did the right thing Alessandra, not at all a grumpy old woman!!
don't let this story spoil your day!
have a nice weekend, xx
hello grumpy old woman !!!! :)
You're right !
Often these are parents who need education considering their behaviour and NOT children ...
Have a great week end !
Thank You all:
the episode got me furibond for half an hour, when I came home I post about it and felt better afterwards...in the evening I had a laugh with Daniele (my husband) about the whole episode, he could pictured the scene perfectly (knowing me)!
But he's always concerns that one daY I will be back home with a black eye!
It's only because I'm not so tall and petite that people think they bully me...they don't know that I'm a fighter...he he he...of course I can run quite fast too!
Oh dear what a crazy world!
Happy week end to all :))))
Oh poor you! There do seem to be some crazy mums out there, a very similar thing happened to a friend of mine the other day when someones child deliberately poured water all over her sketchbook...
wow that was something quite unpleasant. but i'm with you!! cannot understand that mother's ground for being so arrogant over a poorly behaving kid...and honestly, who knows what this kid will grow up into and how he'll treat his mother back....~_~
It is not you with the problem, it is the other person. I have to remind myself of this often. Also, I sometimes find myself reach the breaking point with my own children especially if they are physically hurting me in some way (repeated pulling at me, pushing me, yelling loudly at me, etc). One day I realized that if any other person were treating me like that (a co-worker or friend, for example), it would be assault! I could get them arrested! Being a mother is hard work.
oh, what a story... Hope you are having great weekend!! I love yummy photo!!!
To Louise: That's bad!
To Lovely World: If Anita pull, push or yell at me she knows what the consequences are. When she cannot obtain what she wants she tells me I'm not her friend anymore (something she learnt in nursey) I promptly remind her that as a matter of fact I'm not her friend but her mother. And mothers deserve respect. As I respect her she should do the same to me. I tell her that I never push or pull or smack her, I do shout sometimes because it seems the only way to stop her doing something dangerous.
We tell her that bad behaviour is not allowed in this household, if we have a problem we talk, we don't shout to each other.
When she does something wrong, or she's wingy or moaning constantly because she doesn't want to do something I ignore her, I try to leave the room otherwise I know I'd start to yell like an eagle!
But As you said it is indeed hard work!
Being 4 doesn't give him a free pass for bad manners or being rude (and neither does being however old his mother is).
You had much more patience than I would have! Though I might've thrown the ball *at* the mother instead of across the river.
Your blog is so lovely! I like it!
Éva
what??? is that a joke?
I can't believe the woman...
You are.... a saint!
ps: my man always thinks like your's ;-)
mmmmmm!! tasty!! se me hace agua la boca!!! que sabroso!
I cant believe it! Four years old - that is quite big, no? Did other parents at the playground just stare at you or was there anyone at least sympathizing with you if not, how dare I even think, to fight for you?
As usually, I am late here with my comment...
And I hope you spit out lot of Italian curses at her ...
To bohemian girl:
Ah Magda, you made me laugh!
No, of course NO ONE there symphatized with me. People there were acting as nothing was happenning, I think some were rather puzzled or even embarassed, that I dared to speak out loud!
No, I didn't curse her in italian... but I told everyone there that they were all a bunch of idiots in English! I was furious.
I think the reason why that mother didn't butt headed me was because she was amazed that a rather petite woman was telling her off!
Maybe she thought I was kind of dangerous or just plain crazy...a kung fu expert perhaps?
I did tai chi for 3years (when I lived in London, somehow reassured me!) but more the martial aspect of it (the shandong, blocking and attack)
so I learnt how to pose really...he he he!
that maybe helps!
haha, what a scary attack! i understand you're all upside down about it. I think i would probably have found myself in the same discussion. :)
Things like this have happened to me a few times but not quite so blatent as this and I am left thinking - why me and why is no one else angry except me? So I am feeling not so alone now. It does seem to be a growing trend here at one time (sounds like I'm old!!!) people were nicer to each other.
I do find it strange the contradiction that there are always campaigns against bullying in schools but that it happens outside of school and to adults as well so we shouuld be able to do something about adults who 'bully' others.
I think it's sad how you were left feeling quite hurt about it and she obviously did not care one bit. For me it's usually because I feel that I cannot change the situation or person that niggles.
to Jacqui: Yes, exactly is frustration what I feel.
Anyway bullyism exists because childern learn it from someone (ehm ehm parents perhaps?). As I sadly found out, some parents think that is alright act like this,because life is though and you have to be the toughest to survive...so I guess nothing much changed since prehistoric age, isn't it?
Thanks for sharing :)
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