These cold and rainy days are so uninspiring and boring, I think I reached the point when I have enough: it's not so much about the rain, it's the cold that bother me...aaanyway.
On the weekend though it was sunny and we went to Oxford to visit friends (yep, the "Oxbridge" thing, minus the superior social status, at least for us).
I like Oxford is quite vibrant and international.
I found out the story behind Alice's in Wonderland while we walked through Christ Church Meadow. It was all very nice.
(I took very few snapshot, sorry for the poor quality).
On another hand this morning I read a post on Pikaland that then led me to more links, I find it interesting. I don't know if it's because I'm European but I live the whole blogging experience quite differently: I know that behind blogs there are human beings, hence daily life and all the different problems that arise from it. I think it's interesting that people feel the need to share the other side of their lives. Are we alienating ourselves by blogging about nice stuff?
In my case my main concerns are for my daughter: how can I raise her in the best way possible, how can I give her the tools to learn to be an independent and strong person to go through life with as little "injuries" as possible (both psychological and physical), how can I teach her to become an individual capable to take her own choices, how can I do all this without interfering much on her decisions? will I learn to respect and accept her choices? what kind of example am I for her? am I a control freak? sometimes I feel I am, having to tell her: don't do this , don't do that etc...
And of course I too have concerns about money, health, future and getting older. On the state of economy, the lack of ethics in politics and finance, the pollution, the multinationals greed, the world poverty, the animal welfare, the poor standards of instruction and education for the majority of people, the consumerism, the gap between us and them (us the people, them the few privileged who take major decisions on our behalf and for which reason this world is not doing so good in my humble opinion) and so on...I could rant forever on all these things that affect our daily life, like it or not.
I guess these are pretty much "popular" worries that most of us has and sometimes don't make me sleep at night.
When I go around blogs I never take for granted that what I see is the whole reality of a person's life. Do you?
When I go around blogs I never take for granted that what I see is the whole reality of a person's life. Do you?
My advice (if I can give one) is to (always) be true to yourself and your blog will show that principle. Said so, I'll go back moaning about the miserable weather, my favourite past time lately!
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I was in Oxford too this weekend, visiting my daughter who started studying there in September. All those worries are so familiar to me and I have spent her lifetime worrying and thinking about the way I have raised her. However when I visit her now I can see that she is a fine adult, funny, responsible, thoughtful, considerate and brilliant. Because of us, despite us, she is herself and I love that. I will continue to worry (money, health, career, love are all looming) but the thing is that there is always love and pride. The very thought of her will always make me smile x
Karen, studying in Oxford is quite an achievement, congrats to you and your daughter! thanks for your words here :-)
Alessandra come here, sunny, just the right temperature, lovely sea and niiiice people!
mi piace la tua Oxford!
Ahhhh Matilda, if I could I would...
I spent half of my life in a Mediterranean seaside town, I dunno why I've been spending the other half in places with miserable weather and grumpy faces! : Thanks, we might going to camping in your area someday! x
I saw the same links, and thought excactly the same as you. I found it a little bit superficial, even though it's an attempt to "normalize" the bloggers..But admitting to eating cake dough for instance, isn't excactly giving a lot of your insecurities/worries/weaknesses..But I understand that there are real people behind all blogs, and everyone's got troubles of their own. Some blogs are less or more supeerficial, I like to read a mix of both (depends on my mood). I worry about raising daughters too, and recently the conflict between girls have started in school. Inevitable...
Arctic mum, thanks, don't even get me started on girls conflicts I had to go to the police this year because a mum in the playground school attacked me ( not only verbally) .....long sad story....
i believe we always say more than we think in the blogs,
there is what is said between the lines too (even with 'nice stuff')
for your daughter, I understand you very well, I have the same concerns, they are both very young and they need to be guided a lot
i like the Logic lane :)
and your hands, aw, sweet and strong at the same time
last thing : it's raining again here too !!
bises, S.
Severine, yes we say a lot to those who are listening...LogicLane is the only way to me ;)
Thanks x
hi, i agree with Séverine, a lot can be told by reading between the lines. Less is more as fas as i'm concerned
(you can also tell a lot about a quiet blog!)
At the end of the day most of us share the same anxieties.
and you may be right, it might be a European sensitivity.
hope you enjoyed the ray of sunshine today x
Very interesting, I often think about this, and wonder at the impression I give through my blog. But then, I really just think of it as a collection of nice pictures for myself really, so I don't need to put my worries on there, I speak and think in everyday real life!
I liked reading your list of things that concern you, it's a very good list, it's the list of the kind of person I like!
I like how fanja expressed it. Things don't always need to be spelled out to get a sense of what the author is feeling. And I like what you said about keeping it real. It's detectable amazingly when it is not. Excellent post Alessandra. X
Fanja, you are right, less is more.
I did enjoy the bit of sunshine yesterday, sure!
Louise, exactly, for me blogging is part of real life, it's nothing surreal or fake, it's part of who I am not who I am. Thank you x
Thanks Janis :)
At the end of the day everyone chose what to blog about it, I don't think anyone need directions on how to blog. Those who want to follow the trends, well, just follow it if it makes feel better. I have the impression that sometimes groups of bloggers try to be the leaders of something: well, that is not for me really, I tend to ride free ;)
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